Since I’m done with my Creative Writing class…

I’m going to be posting some of my work from the class on here. I have 7 pieces. 4 poems, a short story, and a play. I just finished the revisions on all of them last night. I have to print them all out with the original before revisions and make it into a portfolio. Stay tuned. I’ll post one tonight and schedule some more for the week.

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Night shift and marriage

So my husband started working a 12 hour night shift about 4 months ago. Let’s just say it’s been difficult…

He works from 7PM-7AM 3 days on, 2 days off; then 2 days on 3 days off. Basically he’s off every other weekend.

I’ve noticed myself feeling distant from him for a while now. He says we’re still close, but I don’t feel it.

His sleep schedule is erratic for a lack of a better word. He comes home on his days off at 7AM and plays video games until noon then goes to bed. On his days off he gets up at 8pm and stays up all night playing video games until noon the next day. It’s not a good schedule and I feel like he isn’t getting enough sleep.

I rarely see him and when I do it’s when he’s leaving for work or in the morning before I go to school. I don’t see him that much on his days off because I’m hanging out with friends or family. So I feel like I never get a chance to talk to him. When I do talk to him I have to update him on everything that’s gone on. Then he will proceed to talk to me about work for an hour.

So how does this affect our marriage? As I said, we rarely talk. We’re never in bed at the same time. We each do our own thing when we’re home. It’s like living with a roommate and it’s very hard. I miss him so much. I miss talking to him and being together.

However, I’ve found out how much I like to be independent now. I make my own food, I have my own schedule. I go to school, come home and do homework, hang out with my dog, and run any errands that need to be done.

Because I’m so heavily medicated, there are days I don’t even notice he’s been home because I’m in my own little world. It’s like if I don’t think about him I don’t miss him. On weekends is really when I start to miss him.

So I guess the positive of night shift in a marriage is you become more independent and can do whatever you want; but you will eventually miss your spouse.

Life Update

So I got my hair cut. Short. Again… [lol] I also colored it blue. I think it looks lovely. I loved my hair blue. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments so far. I believe it suits me.

I start school a week from this coming Monday. I’m so excited, anxious, and nervous. I’m interested to see how much homework I have for each class. I’m really excited for the Intro to Psychology and Literature in Film classes. I’m just worried Logan won’t have been switched to nights my first day of class. They still haven’t let him know much about when he’s being moved. You see, we only have one car…

It’s going to be so nice when he gets that extra pay per week. I have a credit card that is almost maxed out and another credit card that is maxed out. I’m just excited to get out of debt and be able to pay off my college tuitions.

However, I’m not looking forward to Logan not being beside me when I go to sleep at night. Ever since we moved in together I have always had the fear that someone is going to break into our house in the middle of the night and I’m not going to wake up for it. So now, he’s going to be working from 7PM-7AM and I’m scared to sleep by myself.

I thought about getting a gun. Then I remembered I have been suicidal in the past and it’s probably not a good idea for me to have a gun. I told Logan if he ever wanted to get one to keep it where I couldn’t access it. Since we will have the extra income I’m thinking about getting a security system. We’ll see.

Once we get most of everything paid off, we can finally get another car, start upgrading the house, get central air conditioning installed, and get both of us some well over due dental work. I know I have high hopes. I just hope it all works out and I don’t jinx it.

I posted my August reviews. I know it’s a bit early. I questioned if I should do a “CD” review since I don’t believe anyone buys CD’s anymore except me. I did include it with a link to the album on Amazon in case you want to sample it or buy it.

Not that much has been going on. I’ve been helping my Aunt with stuff for an upcoming court date. I’ve been spending too much money on my credit card online. I always buy so much clothing and makeup! That’s about all that’s going on here. I apologize for not writing recently. I’ve been out of ideas on what to write about. Hope you all are well!

A marriage with one income (and no kids)

Currently, I don’t work. I’m actually starting college at the age of 26 in the fall. Since I’m basically going to school full time, I have little time for a part time job. I also WILL NOT work in food service. That’s my personal choice. I’ve applied at an office and have an interview tomorrow, but I’m doubting they will hire me because of my crazy hours.

Last week I was talking to my husband and he said if this place doesn’t hire me, he’s not too worried about me getting a job. He actually just got a promotion and I’m hoping it doesn’t fall through. Once he gets it he will be making about $300 extra a week. Thankfully then we can start paying off all our debt. Between the two of us, we are both in major credit card debt. Anyway, I was actually surprised when he said this. I couldn’t believe he actually didn’t care if I worked. “Yeah, it’d be nice to have more extra money, but I’m not forcing you to” is basically what he said.

I quit my well-paying job back in 2015 and have been unemployed ever since. I went to Cosmetology school full time and that didn’t work out so well. I did have a salon job for a few months earlier this year but I was fired because I wasn’t getting through training quick enough and my manager said she didn’t have time to train me. After getting fired, I had to decide what I wanted to do. I love writing. I do it frequently. I decided to go to school to major in journalism and creative writing.

Living on one income is a bit difficult. We barely skate by and like I said, we have major credit card debt. I’m the one that pays the bills so I have to budget every week my husband gets paid and we are limited to how much money we can spend on groceries. We aren’t able to splurge and buy all kinds of food at the store. We don’t get to buy extra stuff that often, which is why we are in credit card debt. Between the two of us, we go to multiple doctors appointments and each have our own medications we have to pay for. We have 4 pet ferrets we have to buy food, treats, and litter for. It really all adds up.

My husband is a hard worker. He works every day, 5 days a week for 8 hours a day at a factory job that’s he’s been at for 6 years. He’s been so supportive of me over the years.

I happened to pass along to my mom what my husband said about me not having to work. She wasn’t very happy about it. “Don’t you want to make your own money?” She asked. “No. Not really.” I said. I can see how that can be taken as me being lazy, but you have to understand, I’m going to school full time. I want to focus on school. I want to have time to study. I don’t want to overwhelm myself, which I get overwhelmed very easily. My parents are both always on me about getting a job. I just don’t get why it’s so important for me to have a job. It’s so annoying. I wish they would just let me live my life. It’s not like they’re paying for my schooling. My husband is paying for me to go through school and I’m forever grateful for that. They don’t live with me. They don’t pay our bills. If my husband, who is the sole source of our income tells me I don’t have to work, I’m not going to work unless I have to.

Call me lazy all you want, but after I graduate college, I do intend to get a job. I just don’t think it’s the best thing to do right now. However, if I get this office job, I get it and I will work part time. We just have to see how it pans out. Moral of the story is, it’s hard to skimp by with one income, but if you can live comfortably and your significant other supports you, go for it!